Why I stopped watching porn

I spent the best part of my high school & university addicted to pornography. There was a stage at varsity where I felt so guilty about my addiction that I tried to stop by the sheer power of my will, but I was suppressing my desire to watch it & that suppression manifested itself in weird ways & I found myself isolating myself from my friends. It only lasted about a month before I slipped back into old habits, and after failing I was convinced that this was just something that would be a part of my life & I made peace with that.

I had a few mates at varsity that I could talk to about porn & it helped to an extent. I was able to cut down, but still found myself falling back into it. It was only until I found love & opened up to my wife about my struggles with pornography that I was able to slowly change the way I saw women & through that change I was able to free myself from the firm grip that porn had on my life.

me & my beautiful wife on our 1 year wedding anniversary in Vietnam. 

As long as there are men who watch pornography, women will continue to be objectified & while today is about celebrating the brave strides women have made for equality in our country, I want to challenge the men reading this to channel the same bravery to admit their brokenness. It doesn’t have to be on a platform as large as this one – but I do believe that breaking the addiction starts with telling a friend.

Porn will continue to have power over your life and affect the way you see women until you find the bravery to talk about it. The power of porn is in its secrecy, and once that thing is no longer a secret it loses its power over you. While I am far from perfect, being free of porn has had a huge impact on the way I see women. This doesn’t mean that I am free from temptation, but it means that I am now strong enough to be vulnerable and honest with my wife about my weakness. I believe if more guys see vulnerability as a strength and not as weakness, it will open up opportunities for meaningful conversations & ultimately the eradication of sexism & inequality we see every day.

original post from The Kiffness Facebook Page 09 August 2016

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One Response to Why I stopped watching porn

  1. Desmond August 9, 2017 at 2:52 pm #

    So much truth right there, admire your vulnerability Dave

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